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ffocdkd said:
I get what you’re saying, but also charlotte hasn’t even done this with Harlow never-mind if it was a boy whereas Oliver has. In the space of 5 months he’s taken her swimming, got her name tattooed on her, moved in together and pregnancy speculations. In the space of a year brett and charlotte have only just got their first place together and she hasn’t acted like she’s Harlows mum or done any of the things Oliver has done. I just think the whole thing is very very odd and I don’t understand how charlie thinks it’s normal?
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Absolutely all of this.
The sex of the child nor the adult factors into it. Its the whole dynamics and set up of the situation that give me so many red flags.

I probably wouldn't find it weird now if Charlotte took H swimming but she hasn't been with her dad for 35 seconds, she has watched H for Brett (I'm guessing while he's been at work) and not ran straight down the swimming baths.
They took things slow, I don't think Brett even introduced them for a while and when he did it was slow and gentle, natural meet ups going for lunch, playing in the garden etc. And gradually building up contacts.

With Oli it was moving him in and matching Xmas PJs within a month, leaving them alone all day while she lounged in bed, abuse claims. Rekindling the romance, moving him in again, name tattoos etc its just all a weird messed up situation and I feel really sorry for Brett and Harlow in all of it.
 
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MoveBtchGetOutTheWay said:
Interesting question here for you guys, and I’m genuinely just wondering your thoughts as I do think sometimes it’s a bit double standards.

If it was a toddler boy and it was Brett’s partner Charlotte taking him swimming - would you have the same feeling (like with Oliver?). Now obviously there is extenuating circumstances with the previous abusive claims.

I wouldn’t feel comfortable or happy with but I do think men automatically get more concern (in my opinion rightly so, statistically there are more male child offenders than female) than say a female would. I wouldn’t be happy with it but I do think I’d feel a little less worried about it with a female step mum figure than I would with my own new partner (although I’m married so I can’t say how I’d feel as it may be different)

Do you get what I mean? I hope this has come across okay.
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If Charlotte took harlow swimming I’d find it awkward. I find it uncomfortable “my Oliver” and Charlotte have so much involvement I find it awkward if people who weren’t on tv let their new partners around their kids. I get it must be tough being a single parent - I’m on my own with my son due to his dad being deployed so much. To me it Doesn’t matter about the sex of the child imo. I wouldn’t trust a newish partner who has especially had claims of abuse thrown about after the break up near my child again, let alone trust them enough to take said kid swimming.

I also 110% agree Charlie is pregnant. Look at all the previous posts she’s made about wanting a family with him
 
Hann98 said:
If Charlotte took harlow swimming I’d find it awkward. I find it uncomfortable “my Oliver” and Charlotte have so much involvement I find it awkward if people who weren’t on tv let their new partners around their kids. I get it must be tough being a single parent - I’m on my own with my son due to his dad being deployed so much. To me it Doesn’t matter about the sex of the child imo. I wouldn’t trust a newish partner who has especially had claims of abuse thrown about after the break up near my child again, let alone trust them enough to take said kid swimming.

I also 110% agree Charlie is pregnant. Look at all the previous posts she’s made about wanting a family with him
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God help Harlow and that baby if she is.
Another one she can neglect.
But on a plus for cgarlie she can use the baby to blackmail oli.... she's definitely one if those woman who blackmail and use the child as a weapon
 
The high profile physical abuse/murder cases of Star Hobson and Arthur Labinjo-Hughes were both relatively new partners and both female. I’m a single parent and not actually dated since pre-child and I will be so incredibly cautious about how long I leave it before introducing them to my son when (if!) the time comes. It seems to be a major risk factor for some reason.

However 98% of convicted sex offenders are male which is why I think some may be more concerned about a new male partner taking a child swimming compared to a new female partner. It’s sad for the innocent men but at the end of the day sex abuse is far more likely to be committed by a man than a woman. It’s why it’s so important women and girls have access to single sex spaces.
 
Tofino said:
The high profile physical abuse/murder cases of Star Hobson and Arthur Labinjo-Hughes were both relatively new partners and both female. I’m a single parent and not actually dated since pre-child and I will be so incredibly cautious about how long I leave it before introducing them to my son when (if!) the time comes. It seems to be a major risk factor for some reason.

However 98% of convicted sex offenders are male which is why I think some may be more concerned about a new male partner taking a child swimming compared to a new female partner. It’s sad for the innocent men but at the end of the day sex abuse is far more likely to be committed by a man than a woman. It’s why it’s so important women and girls have access to single sex spaces.
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You better articulated in the second paragraph what I meant 😹.

In this situation with Charlie and Ollie I totally agree it’s not appropriate or something I would be ok with in my opinion. And I don’t think I would ever be comfortable with it even if it was my own daughter and my new partner. Like the poster above majority of sex offenders are males and is rather be over cautious and offend them then put my child at risk, let alone if I’d admitted publicly my partner was abusive!! There’s just no way and I’m not sure I’d even be worried about sexual abuse it’s the aggressive abuse. Exposing my child to angry behaviour and physical abuse. All it would take is Harlow to refuse to be clothes on and he could lash out.
 
As a mum myself, I personally think Charlie is struggling. I do love a night out but my daughter is always at her dads during them times. I was with my ex (not my daughters dad) a year and a half and he would babysit my daughter and do the school run for me occasionally because I had uni and also working during the week. But he never took her swimming. I find Oliver posting Harlow on social media a bit odd, it’s unnecessary. My ex never posted my daughter, he never even asked or thought the need to, because that’s not his child if that makes sense. As much as an amazing step dad he was, I certainly wouldn’t of let him take her swimming only because my daughter would probably feel a bit uncomfortable… he never did bath time or anything. Those special memories are for me and my daughter to share, once your a mum and find a relationship, you have to keep boundaries in place. I never let him move in with me, and I certainly wouldn’t of had a baby so soon either… Charlie needs to grow up a bit and wake up!
 
Lbell76 said:
Olis Insta bio ‘my family is my world’ take it he’s referring to Charlie and a child that isn’t even his? First the tattoo then the swimming now calling someone else’s daughter his ‘family’ If I was Brett I’d put a stop to all this
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My family… what a child that isn’t yours, Charlie just wants to keep pushing and pushing until she manipulates Brett into being out of the picture so she can have a perfect family life with Oli! And she knows she’s doing it! Brett should take Charlie to court so they can get set custody, seems to be the only thing that will work.
 
Lbell76 said:
Olis Insta bio ‘my family is my world’ take it he’s referring to Charlie and a child that isn’t even his? First the tattoo then the swimming now calling someone else’s daughter his ‘family’ If I was Brett I’d put a stop to all this
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I’m sorry I’m probably gonna offend a lot of people know but I find stuff like this in bios as a big red flag there’s no need it putting that in bios for validation even on tinder people would put “my child is my world they come first it’s your problem” like oviously they’re your world and they come first but having to spread everywhere the world isn’t the family courts it’s not them you need to convince I don’t know if it’s me that’s the problem that finds it cringing or wrong putting stuff like this on bios but I find it isn’t really keeping children safe
 
Chosen.One said:
That means nothing really when Harlow has had to get used to Charlie’s other boyfriend in between the split and when they got back together. Must be confusing for her
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I’m also pretty sure her and Brett kept getting back together at that point no? Weren’t they engaged in 2020?
 
CocoLoco2 said:
Charlie and Oli started seeing each other in 2020? I know they split but he has been around longer than mentioned
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I think the difference being when they split she threw the ‘he abused me’ shouts around like she did with Brett, also had another man around Harlow in the split. If he was that abusive to her why the duck is he living in a house with her toddler.
 
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