I’m watching the latest episode in drabs during coffee breaks ha (I had to skip the Freddy double date scene because it was just so awkward and cringe. My god).
I’ve got a bit of a controversial opinion… but the way Imogen has behaved towards Harvey is actually pretty bleeping disgusting, and I say this knowing full well that Harvey is a bit of a pig.
firstly, they had a casual thing going on. He was staying over, sleeping with her, cuddling her and buying her gifts. Neither of them made it official and Imogen has never contradicted the fact it was casual. She got feelings for Harvey, they’ve done relationshipy things so she has decided that she is owed a relationship, despite this never being something Harvey agreed to.
he has proceeded to end things with her, in person and via text (she hasn’t contradicted this either). But because she has decided she wants a relationship with him, she appears to have ignored this.
when she has discovered he’s seeing someone else, she then totally violates this new girls privacy by discussing her shopping for underwear and her sex life (to me, this has bullying vibes. She wanted to embarrass and slutshame in the same vein. But also expected Willow to check she was Ok. Make it make sense). She then throws the mother of all tantrums, berating Harvey for ending things with her and bitching about his new love interest, Willow, for not checking if she was OK. To Willow’s friends. Behind her back. The hypocrisy here was off the charts.
she meets up with his ex and proceeds to bash him further.
he agrees to meet up with her (presumably for some type of closure). She spends the entire conversation yelling, shouting over him and refusing to answer his questions or clarify. E.g she calls him a liar, so he asks her where she thinks he has lied. She just ignores this with “you can’t argue with stupid”. It makes no sense. She was never interested in being understood or having empathy, or even reaching some sort of mutual concessus. She might as well have said “how dare you not want to be with me? How dare you refuse to give me something I’ve decided I’ve wanted”?
the worst thing for me is, she brings up Emily and how “everyone” thinks he’s an asshole, while also repeatedly yelling at home from across the table “youre an asshole”. It’s a hugely unfair comparison, it’s hugely unfair to weaponise his past relationship against him (especially since she dated him in the knowledge of what had happened), and it’s abuse to triangulate someone like that, a common narcissist tactic. It’s a control tactic, to make Harvey feel ganged up on, to override his viewpoint and make him feel alienated and self conscious and to try and get him to agree to her viewpoint.
when he doesn’t react to all of this, she tries a different tactic - apologising insincerely and “crying”. Sorry but did anyone else notice any tears? Nope me neither. And they switched off pretty quickly too.
It’s embarrassing that she’s behaving like a pathetic toddler, but I genuinely think the way she’s behaving is pretty abusive and manipulative. Is Harvey a dick? Yeh probably. But that doesn’t negate her behaviour being crappy too. If it was a man shouting down a woman like that in public, it would be (rightfully) seen as abusive and unpalatable.
The name calling, the entitlement, the triangulation, the yelling, the fake crying… all of it is a giant red flag. I don’t blame Harvey for getting the ick and running a mile. I think he showed a lot of constraint, and I don’t even think the guy is much of a decent person.
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Reminds me of my friend's girlf who went to Exeter Uni and woke up to find Jamie skulking around her flat (having just shagged her flatmate). It's pretty predatory behaviour when you think about it.
Bless her - she still hasn't learned how the male brain works 
