Love Island 2022 #31 Jacques is LITERALLY out the window and deleted

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muffintop13 said:
I find it quite surprising you have come to the Love Island threads to say people here are wrong to comment on Jacques' behaviour when you yourself have commented on other threads with less than kind comments, and I quote, "I dont think he's mentally stable at the moment he's a fuckin mess" .

Perhaps you should practice what you preach 🤷‍♀️
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They’ve also called someone “a wee ned” and “a cheap nasty minger”. Not very controlled or kind.
 
strawberrysunshine_x said:
See this is where I disagree. Before casa the lads were being horrible to her so I really don’t blame her for wanting to keep it under wraps. I honestly think she just stretched snd accidentally put her hand on his knob 😂
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I think the same. I think it’s actually just wrong that he’s came out spouting tit about it because she doesn’t have a clue.

Also feel like she wanted to keep it under wraps because she’s always trying to prove herself to Davide and if anyone said anything to him about it, it would just cause unnecessary drama for her.
 
Stealingstyle said:
A person with well controlled opinions would not comment or labell the guy an abuser or gaslighter. Ffs its a game show hes a 23td year boy
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With the greatest of respect if I saw Jacques down my local on a Friday night going on the way he acted on LI then I would have no hesitation in calling him a dick - that's not me being unkind, that's me saying it as I see him by his actions. if he has any sense he may take some heed to what people are saying about him and dig a bit deeper into himself and do a bit of work on himself to find out his triggers and how to best deal with them.

Mind you he probably won't, I know from bitter experience narcs are never wrong and it's everyone else who's the issue 🤷‍♀️. I've endured a relationship with one and still bare the trauma years later despite counselling etc. So maybe seeing how he acted throughout the series has triggered me a bit. However, to coin a well know phrase "it is what it is" and I'm not in the business anymore of making excuses for asshole behaviours from asshole people regardless of gender. He may be 23 but some people are married with kids at that age so I'm not buying that as an excuse either.

We're losing the real meaning of be kind by excusing every twit of the day from their awful behaviour. No accountability anymore.
 
I can’t keep up with the thread as usual (work getting in the way 😠) but zzzz I hate when people come on threads to try and police it there’s plenty celebs and influencers I actually do like so I purposely don’t frequent their threads here?
Jacques acted very crappy for the whole time he was in there and seeing last night the way he spoke to billy and Paige I whole heartedly believe he treated remi the way he claims. He spoke to numerous people like dirt way before casa, had a blatant disregard for Paige’s feelings whilst in casa Amor and blamed what he did on her and did not understand what so ever whyhe should apologise until it affected him. We had a small insight into the way he and Gemma’s relationship was when they had an altercation on the sun beds so unfortunately I don’t think this was solely due to the pressure of love island.
I think he got a short sharp wake up call last night as he’s had an inkling of what people actually think about him and he’s erupted, for that reason I’m glad he’s gone and I hope he gets help to change his behaviour going forward.
having poor mental health or being ND is NOT an excuse to be a crappy person with no consequences, and that mindset is harmful/hurtful to people with these diagnoses.
 
I have watched since the first episode and it is a different show, obviously due to younger viewers, more social media, mental health etc. I believe Jacques behaviour was 'wrong' but for all the islanders it must be strange, imagine being told when to get up, re-shoot conversations, no really idea of the date or time.
Add in the boredom being in the same place with mainly the same people who will have mostly seen and heard the same things so nothing new to talk about and no distractions like the internet, TV etc no one can know how they will handle this.
Think of the family holidays when sharing a room when everyone got irritated at some point but they could walk away and do their own thing, find another activity etc.
Obviously some will cope better than overs but it is not real/normal life so when the islanders do come out of the villa people/media need to keep this in mind and hopefully they will get as much support and education as they need, in what ever form.
 
FatherJackHackett said:
With the greatest of respect if I saw Jacques down my local on a Friday night going on the way he acted on LI then I would have no hesitation in calling him a dick - that's not me being unkind, that's me saying it as I see him by his actions. if he has any sense he may take some heed to what people are saying about him and dig a bit deeper into himself and do a bit of work on himself to find out his triggers and how to best deal with them.

Mind you he probably won't, I know from bitter experience narcs are never wrong and it's everyone else who's the issue 🤷‍♀️. I've endured a relationship with one and still bare the trauma years later despite counselling etc. So maybe seeing how he acted throughout the series has triggered me a bit. However, to coin a well know phrase "it is what it is" and I'm not in the business anymore of making excuses for asshole behaviours from asshole people regardless of gender. He may be 23 but some people are married with kids at that age so I'm not buying that as an excuse either.
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You don’t even need to know him to know his a dick because I just feel like even with the heavily edited clips that we see on LI he comes across bad. He gets his back up the minute anyone disagrees with him. The first night Jay walked in he was arsey with him, got rude to Remi, spoke to Paige like tit & one thing I don’t get is Luca claims to be close to him but he never once had Lucas back when Dami was calling him out during Casa amor. He’s just a very unlikeable guy and I think the whole ADHD is just a easy cop out.
 
stardust21 said:
I am getting really sick and tired of people using the tragic early deaths of three people in an attempt to stifle conversation on Jacques toxic behaviour. Much of the comments calling Jacques out are based on personal lived experiences of those who have been in abusive relationships, and I find it gross that people are saying #bekind people have committed suicide associated with Love Island. This stupid argument is an attempt to shut down conversation and is also arguable in itself very toxic.

Firstly, Caroline Flack was never a contestant on LI, she never appeared on it as a reality TV star. If you’re going to pass any blame onto a TV show for her death, I’d argue Strictly made her more famous than LI did. Strictly has 10M views a week, by a broad range of the public. LI has 3M with the majority being from one demographic (young and female).

Secondly, none of these deaths happened as a result of the show. Yes Mike and Sophie appeared on the show, but that doesn’t mean it’s the shows fault. Mental Health is such a complex issue. People who don’t like reality TV have just latched onto this argument as a means of persuading other people that this is a reason the show should end.

Thirdly, I’m going to say this again, but I find it frankly disgusting that people are essentially saying you can’t call out his behaviour because “he has ADHD”. Why is it acceptable for him and his family to create even more misunderstanding about this condition? Isn’t life hard enough for people who are neurodivergent (people who do not think in a typical way), without having head behaviour claimed to be the reason for it. You can have ADHD and be a head. You can have ADHD and not be a head. You can not have ADHD and be a head. All of these things are true.

I have not seen anyone say “Jacques deserves to die” or anything sick like that. I haven’t seen anyone say anything that is harsh or unfair in regards to Jacques. All I have seen is people interpreting his behaviour based on their lived experiences. That is literally the whole point of Reality TV…. Many people love to watch it so they can talk about it and that’s the interesting part. That’s why we’re all on tattle. That’s why people tweet along. That’s why Reddit advertise in the LI breaks.

He was clearly asked to leave the show because of his aggressive and manipulative behaviour and reactions. He should have never been allowed on the show in the first place and hopefully LI producers will alter the interview stages to ensure this doesn’t happen with a contestant again.
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I love you for this post!! ♥️ Thank you for explaining it so much better than I could. Not a day goes by where I don't think of my abuser at least once. He may have got a prison sentence, but I'm serving the life sentence because of the memories of his words and actions. Every bit of behaviour Jaques displayed, I can relate to that experience. The way he spoke to Paige on National TV so soon after meeting her. I said it last night....what would it be like behind closed doors? I cannot stand it when people use mental health as an excuse or justification of someone's abusive behaviour. My abuser destroyed my already fragile mental health and my ability to form relationships with other human beings as I have no trust left. So when someone uses that card to excuse someone's vile behaviour, it makes me sick.

You hit every single nail on the head in your post, and then some 😘♥️
 
I think we are all looking at the Jacques thing too deeply. He was obviously struggling in last two weeks.. writing up texts during the night, crying, reacting irrationally... I believe the LI health team had a talk with him but it was his final decision to walk out as he was all over the place by the end ... talking constantly to Paige in bed etc, sitting outside at night. He was so hyped up. And that is classic ADHD. Its just that you can over react to events and struggle to not hold in your feelings. Not an excuse - a symptom which should not be condemned. He said he needed to get out of there and have some sense of calm. And he did.. so end of story...! move on... and hope he gets guidance and gets back to playing the rugby he loves etc.
 
SummerFields2001 said:
I think we are all looking at the Jacques thing too deeply. He was obviously struggling in last two weeks.. writing up texts during the night, crying, reacting irrationally... I believe the LI health team had a talk with him but it was his final decision to walk out as he was all over the place by the end ... talking constantly to Paige in bed etc, sitting outside at night. He was so hyped up. And that is classic ADHD. Its just that you can over react to events and struggle to not hold in your feelings. Not an excuse - a symptom which should not be condemned. He said he needed to get out of there and have some sense of calm. And he did.. so end of story...! move on... and hope he gets guidance and gets back to playing the rugby he loves etc.
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I agree to a point- however if ITV’s love island crisis team are so specialist and expert the way they make out,they would have known he had ADHD before going in and surely would have spotted these behaviours way before we got to the point we did last night which was - even if you don’t like him - difficult to watch. They monitor social media and saw the way he was being received and the way he was being called a gaslighter and a bully, so why was he not asked to leave much sooner? This being true about ADHD symptoms then ITV have failed another islander as they’ve left in there displaying harmful behaviours and building up a very extreme public reaction against him 🤷🏻‍♀️

obviously not a question for you just a general wondering about the whole sitiuation, I find it very bizarre
 
Bless him x
 

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