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As requested on TikTok Mums threads.

British mum (Emilie) and son (Adam) with mum’s partner (Josh) and three more (adopted) children (Tally, George and I forget 🫣) in Uganda.

The plan is apparently to get Josh and kids to the UK but first he has to officially adopt them, Emilie can’t for reasons unspecified, and the adoption seems to be going nowhere. They also don’t have enough money for the UK visa requirements and now Emilie has moved back to Uganda they are unlikely to get jobs here good enough for those but staying in Uganda is also not an option for them.

Several gofundmes knocking around and various drama from being scammed and targeted in Uganda to being made homeless. Josh and Emilie seem to have a weird relationship also. What else have I misssed??
 
I’m pretty sure her and Adam are now back in the UK? And did someone mention a video where she said she was no longer in a relationship with Josh?!
 
Sophie92 said:
I’m pretty sure her and Adam are now back in the UK? And did someone mention a video where she said she was no longer in a relationship with Josh?!
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They’re back but only for the summer apparently? It’s all very odd, seems to me the best chance of bringing them over is her being here and trying to either save and/or get a job that pays enough, or one where she could look out for openings to hire Josh.
 
Jumping right over this thread!

I really hope she stays in the UK with Adam. They are so much better off here. It is so clear she was being taken advantage of in Uganda, scammed and exploited at every opportunity.

I get weird vibes from Josh too, is he controlling and abusive, taking advantage or just not being 100% honest, I can't put my finger on it but it makes me so uncomfortable and worried for her safety and wellbeing out there.

Adam's behaviour has also changed a lot since he's been away, he seems wired and hyper all the time now, not the placid wee cookie he was before. To me that's the behaviour of an unsettled and insecure child, he needs love, nurture and stability. What happened out there?
 
I can’t comment on Josh and the relationship there but I think Emilie is absolutely bloody wonderful. She’s clearly doing her absolute best by her family and trying so hard. She fought tooth and nail for the adoption of Adam. She can’t adopt the others because they are relations of Josh, their parents are still alive and they have families (Adam’s birth mum died when he was born hence why she was given him to look after). She also probably couldnt afford to even if she wanted to considering how much it cost her (not to mention how long it took) for her to adopt Adam. So Josh has to adopt them over there and then he could potentially come here on a spousal visa from what I understand.

Honestly I think she’s amazing, she’s working so hard to provide for everyone and it’s clearly destroying her not to have her whole family together. I can’t even imagine having children so far away and not being able to do much to bring them closer.

I do hope she stays in the UK though, she doesn’t deserve to be scammed
 
Flipflopdrop said:
Oh yes I think she seems like an absolutely wonderful Mum to Adam, and her love for him is very clear. They have a beautiful bond. But I really do think she should stay on the UK with him, she seemed so sad and stressed in Uganda.
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I agree but I also think if she takes him back to Uganda to the environment she’s described (them being specifically targeted, vague attacks on them and the general tension and stress she seems to have over there) then she’s being massively neglectful.

I know the other 3 are over there and it’s horrendous for her to be parted from them but looking at it realistically their dream is never going to happen. The adoption from Josh doesn’t seem to have progressed at all and they don’t have the savings or the money needed to bring him and them over on a spousal visa.

She and Josh need to decide whether they’re going to move somewhere else in Uganda where they aren’t being targeted or whether she cuts her losses and does what’s best for Adam and stays here. Harsh as it is there comes a point where you’ve got to face the truth and that’s now for her IMO.
 
Interesting comment on her newest YouTube:
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I’ve followed Emilie for a while, and things definitely seem weird at the moment. Her bond with Adam is so strong, and I get the impression she wants to help everyone, the other three, Josh, Josh’s family, their dogs etc.
It seems they’ve had a really bad run of luck, getting evicted, having their car stolen being targeted etc, it’s all really scary. This is going to sound awful, but i sometimes feel she was coerced into taking on the three other children, and it’s odd that they can’t adopt them. I know their parents are still alive, but aren’t they Josh’s cousins or nephews? Surely that makes things simpler if they are family to get an adoption finalised, as it sounds like they were “dumped” onto Josh’s mum and don’t appear to have any contact with them at all?
She must feel really torn, as I’m sure if she stayed in the UK she could stay with her parents and get a teaching job. The amount of money she says she’d need to bring Josh and the other 3 over here is a LOT, they’d easily be teenagers before that’s possible. Not her fault, but she doesn’t seem to have the same relationship with the 3 that she does with Adam- it’s clear he is the favourite. If she did bring them over when they were older, I’m certain there would be so much resentment.
I also think it’s odd they’ve never married. They’ve got 4 children and been together a while now, so why no marriage? I saw her say their first date, she brought Adam, so it’s never just been the 2 of them. Their relationship seems like it’s a lot of effort, and while I’m not saying that means it won’t work, but he doesn’t seem as in love as she is. Maybe it’s just his personality.
I know she was a teacher over here, but what does she do for work in Uganda?
 
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she does online tutoring and also gets money from TikTok and YouTube, asking for money from followers and their patreon and gofundmes
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I saw on a recent TikTok that she made around £400 off TikTok in August, which is a lot, but not enough for a family of 6. I wonder how much they make off patreon? I thought the go fund me’s we’re for their dog rescues? I’ve never seen her mention these, which your think she would if it was an important income stream
 
leabytottle said:
I saw on a recent TikTok that she made around £400 off TikTok in August, which is a lot, but not enough for a family of 6. I wonder how much they make off patreon? I thought the go fund me’s we’re for their dog rescues? I’ve never seen her mention these, which your think she would if it was an important income stream
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She has one for her own kids school fees as well as the charity ones. She’s also currently asking for money for Josh’s medical bills. She posts more about them on YouTube than TikTok I think
 
leabytottle said:
I saw on a recent TikTok that she made around £400 off TikTok in August, which is a lot, but not enough for a family of 6. I wonder how much they make off patreon? I thought the go fund me’s we’re for their dog rescues? I’ve never seen her mention these, which your think she would if it was an important income stream
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She’s got about 4 go fund mes for various causes including moving here and the kids schooling, the patreon, a Ko-fi thing that’s apparently for a school but not the kids school and she’s been asking people to put into her PayPal for Josh’s medical fees. Plus a raffall to win £1000 that’s apparently the 3rd one they’ve done. Confused yet? 😂

She does seem lovely but I can’t see why she doesn’t see it screams SCAM and gets upset when people comment about the volume of fundraisers and whether it’s a good use of time and money to do the dog rescue instead of focus on getting the adoption through and the kids over here
 
Josh is the hospital while she's in the UK 🤔, and I assume she's had to send money for medical bills. I hope he's okay, but really is he in the hospital? Or is it another scam? Who looks after the other kids when he's not there?
 
The way she talks about what she needs to have in place before they all come over, it’s ridiculous.
It makes sense to be earning enough for your family to be able to eat and have a roof over their head. £28k isn’t a lot for a family of 6 to live off! They’re of course needing a house too, so why is she making out that they’re all ridiculous things to ask.
It sounds like Josh isn’t very forthcoming in wanting to come over or adopt the children. At the moment, am I right in thinking that Emily has adopted Adam, and Josh has not. Neither Josh or Emily have adopted the other 3 children? It seems odd, especially as he is related to them and she said that’s any easier way to adopt.
It’s all very odd. The three younger ones don’t seem to be very bonded to her and it’s clear that Adam is “her boy”. It would not surprise me if she moved here and the 4 of them didn’t come over
 
leabytottle said:
The way she talks about what she needs to have in place before they all come over, it’s ridiculous.
It makes sense to be earning enough for your family to be able to eat and have a roof over their head. £28k isn’t a lot for a family of 6 to live off! They’re of course needing a house too, so why is she making out that they’re all ridiculous things to ask.
It sounds like Josh isn’t very forthcoming in wanting to come over or adopt the children. At the moment, am I right in thinking that Emily has adopted Adam, and Josh has not. Neither Josh or Emily have adopted the other 3 children? It seems odd, especially as he is related to them and she said that’s any easier way to adopt.
It’s all very odd. The three younger ones don’t seem to be very bonded to her and it’s clear that Adam is “her boy”. It would not surprise me if she moved here and the 4 of them didn’t come over
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You’re right, Emilie adopted Adam alone. Not sure if she met had met Josh when she first started the adoption process with Adam.

Afaik the other three children are not orphans the way Adam was (his mother died and he was in an orphanage) so I guess that could pose some problems adopting them? Josh is a relative who is looking after them. Honestly I wouldn’t be surprised if Josh and his family have no intention of letting them be adopted by her. Why would they want to? It would take the children away from Uganda and it would take Emilie’s money away from them too.

There’s also the fact that international adoption laws in Uganda have become stricter too due to trafficking and corruption (Not saying Emilie did any of this with Adam at all). They are less likely to grant a foreigner an adoption. It’s widely understood that it’s better for children to stay with their biological families and in their own culture if it’s safe and they can be supported to do so.
 
Marley_and_me said:
Does she have a job? Do her and Adam live with her parents still? Seems a very odd situation
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I queries this too. She does online tutoring as well as making money off social media and has various go fund me get ups.
She is currently in the UK for a family wedding, saying she had a return ticket to the uk to use, so it would be wasted otherwise 🤦🏼‍♀️
Adam is the only child she has adopted, so the 3 younger ones, or Josh can’t come over, as she said it would affect the visa process later on.
It must be a huge shock for both her and Adam to come back to the uk, as their way of life in Uganda seems hard. Everything from their house situation, car, different schools, having to jump on an unsafe looking mop if to get anywhere, the way Emilie gets treated by some of Joshs family (they assume age has money so it appears they give money to joshs family)
Adam seems to like being in the uk with his family and he probably misses school and the amenities over here.

I wonder if Emilie feels like she is in too deep now and that she would prefer to stay here, get a teaching job and build a life for her and Adam. At some point she’s going to have to do that again, otherwise the visa won’t happen.
 
It must be hard for all the children, I’m sure they are doing what they think is best for them.
I agree that she will need permanent work to fund the visas, wonder why she doesn’t try to do this asap. I didn’t realise she is a qualified teacher, surely that is the best way to get money
 
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