James and Maeva Made in Chelsea

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New poster on this thread - stick to the MIC one. I actually disagreed with the posts when Maeva had Covid and thought to myself well Maeva might struggle with health anxiety or even generalized anxiety, beau could have been a little sickly at birth, Maeva could have been really affected by Covid, etc.

But seeing them go on a week-long ski trip just one month after leaving him for a week, when he is only TWO MONTHS has made me eat humble pie.

I really do wonder whether Maeva had/has PPD and perhaps this is a V-day or break holiday from James thinking he is helping the situation. I don't want to speculate but there are signs IMO. Her constant posts about her resenting pregnancy, her post-pregnancy body, the fact that she had to have a C-section, the only times she leaves the house is for her massages/hair appointments etc. Women who have a specific birth plan and are hyper-focused on vaginal deliveries do have a greater likelihood of PPD, relationship disconnect, etc if it does not go as planned. Even if it's not PPD or disconnect, there is a clear lack of bond and it's devastating for all involved but especially baby beau.

I am a child of PPD, disconnect and resentment from my mother for having a c-sec and "ruining her body" even though she is a size 6-8, similar to Maeva. Maeva and James relationships and personalities remind me a lot of my parents and I went NC with my mother 3 years ago.

I hope Maeva steps up and gets help if she does harbor any feelings of resentment or disconnect.
 
By all accounts Jemz is very rich. They could afford to hire a nanny to bring the baby with them on holiday, leave baby to nanny in the day whilst they ski and have him of an evening.

I think Maeva is making every effort to prevent the baby from inconveniencing Jemz in any way. The pregnancy was the way to hasten the engagement but she has her eyes on the prize which is the marriage, once she marries him she is set.

Jemz has all the power now, and she doesn’t want him deciding life as a husband and dad doesn’t suit him before she gets the ring on her finger.

they’re also probably at the stage of prenups being negotiated so she’ll be on her best behaviour and keeping him on side.
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greenrosie said:
New poster on this thread - stick to the MIC one. I actually disagreed with the posts when Maeva had Covid and thought to myself well Maeva might struggle with health anxiety or even generalized anxiety, beau could have been a little sickly at birth, Maeva could have been really affected by Covid, etc.

But seeing them go on a week-long ski trip just one month after leaving him for a week, when he is only TWO MONTHS has made me eat humble pie.

I really do wonder whether Maeva had/has PPD and perhaps this is a V-day or break holiday from James thinking he is helping the situation. I don't want to speculate but there are signs IMO. Her constant posts about her resenting pregnancy, her post-pregnancy body, the fact that she had to have a C-section, the only times she leaves the house is for her massages/hair appointments etc. Women who have a specific birth plan and are hyper-focused on vaginal deliveries do have a greater likelihood of PPD, relationship disconnect, etc if it does not go as planned. Even if it's not PPD or disconnect, there is a clear lack of bond and it's devastating for all involved but especially baby beau.

I am a child of PPD, disconnect and resentment from my mother for having a c-sec and "ruining her body" even though she is a size 6-8, similar to Maeva. Maeva and James relationships and personalities remind me a lot of my parents and I went NC with my mother 3 years ago.

I hope Maeva steps up and gets help if she does harbor any feelings of resentment or disconnect.
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I hadn’t thought of the PPD angle. I wonder if a bit of gender disappointment plays into it too as I feel like Maeva would bother with a girl a lot more
 
I thought PND when I heard about the covid break, and now this.
But also I know people like this- they are loaded. One couple went to a wedding for 5 days (long haul destination) without their 4 month old. They were millionaires. Paid for people to come and sleep train their kid. Lovely family, nice people. But just detached.
 
SassyLad8 said:
I thought PND when I heard about the covid break, and now this.
But also I know people like this- they are loaded. One couple went to a wedding for 5 days (long haul destination) without their 4 month old. They were millionaires. Paid for people to come and sleep train their kid. Lovely family, nice people. But just detached.
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He'll be shipped off to boarding school at the earliest time possible
 
Most definitely gender disappointment alongside possible PPD and feelings of resentment with body changes. Unfortunately, many mothers with body issues find resentment towards their child, particularly the first born, and the c-section for maeva would only make it worse. She cant stand stretch marks so I imagine a c-section scar is the end of the world!! Her stories about the scar just affirm that!
 
First time poster here on this thread. I’m in SHOCK at how much time they’re spending away from that poor baby. My daughter had her first overnight stay at my mums when she was 7 months old and I cried like an idiot when I dropped her off and was over to get her first thing, how these 2 can go 10 days and now a week is just insanity. They don’t deserve that baby, he’s going to be thinking his grandma is his mother at this rate!
 
EffingDust said:
By all accounts Jemz is very rich. They could afford to hire a nanny to bring the baby with them on holiday, leave baby to nanny in the day whilst they ski and have him of an evening.

I think Maeva is making every effort to prevent the baby from inconveniencing Jemz in any way. The pregnancy was the way to hasten the engagement but she has her eyes on the prize which is the marriage, once she marries him she is set.

Jemz has all the power now, and she doesn’t want him deciding life as a husband and dad doesn’t suit him before she gets the ring on her finger.

they’re also probably at the stage of prenups being negotiated so she’ll be on her best behaviour and keeping him on side.
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I hadn’t thought of the PPD angle. I wonder if a bit of gender disappointment plays into it too as I feel like Maeva would bother with a girl a lot more
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Very astute point! She's probably trying to show him his life hasn't changed much wirh an engagement and a baby in the hope it secures a marriage. If his life had changed and trips, dinners, boys time stopped then he'd back away from marriage quickly. She's playing a game to keep the status quo and get that wedding. And she's selfish and doesn’t care one iita about leaving the baby
 
I’m wondering if James’ Mam offers to have him so much ‘cause she’d rather have him with a family member than a nanny? Someone on here said she didn’t grow up with money so maybe the thought of a stranger taking care of her grandchild is alien to her?
 
charlied0106 said:
Very astute point! She's probably trying to show him his life hasn't changed much wirh an engagement and a baby in the hope it secures a marriage. If his life had changed and trips, dinners, boys time stopped then he'd back away from marriage quickly. She's playing a game to keep the status quo and get that wedding. And she's selfish and doesn’t care one iita about leaving the baby
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That's a very good point I never thought about before , obviously cares more about making sure the relationship works and James stays happy rather than being with her baby.
 
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