Perhaps my teens do more than average, but I’m a one parent house hold, with disabilities, I work/study full time and have a commute that takes around 2.5-3 hours per day. The chores are by no means done every day (we’re all ND, 7YO may be the only one of us that isn’t), we do live in a fair bit of WHERES MY KEYS (thank duck for Tiles) type chaos, and it’s far from a show home as I frankly can’t be fucked to spend my precious down time scrubbing/tidying.
But their friends comment on how it’s “got, like, warm vibes and you’re so chill” (I am anything but chill under the surface) which I think means I’m happy to sit knitting with cartoons on whilst 7YO has LEGO everywhere (floor is a regular death trap for it), teens are throwing sausages and hash browns in the oven for breakfast, there’s a Mount Doom of laundry to put away, rather than following the teens around the kitchen putting stuff away after they’ve used it/frantically throwing LEGO in the boxes whilst it’s still being played with etc.
I just cant be arsed. Between ADHD, post viral fatigue and the side effects of my CPTSD meds, I cannot.
Someone I know has 3 teens and a very smol child. She doesn’t lift a finger to cook or clean, only does bath/bed with the very smol child once per week, because the teens are all scheduled to do all of it.
She works very part time from home and is often found in the shed, crafting whatever she’s trying that week.
I didn’t realise how bad it is was (in terms of it being ran like a house share with 4 adults where one of them does duck all) until I spent a week there when I visited having not seen her for years.
I’ve had very little contact with her since then, I found it really upsetting. It was truly bizarre watching 3 teenagers tag team a toddler as if they were the parents.
