Northern northener
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I'm wondering if anyone would care to share their stories about this difficult subject as it's really hard to discuss this with friends.
My brother has been a huge drinker since the age of 16. He is now 58. He is the village drunk and I find it really shameful because he can be cruel, and does embarrassing things and has a 'reputation'. He's not a violent drunk, but a mean one and some of the things he has said to me have been awful.
Between us we are guessing at least 50 pints a week in the pub plus goodness knows how many cans at home or lunchtime drinks. He works full time but goes to the pub at the end of the day, has a few pints, evening meal, then back to the pub. Weekend he is wondering the village unable to find his way home. Wet patch and all
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He has no friends left as the few he had died from alcohol related diseases or they have distanced themselves as he gets quite rude and obnoxious. Only one pub in the area will serve him now, so he sits alone. He is on his third marriage and barely sees his daughter. When she was young she would visit her dad but would have to sit in the pub watching him slowly get drunk. He never did any fun stuff. She's an adult now and has issues of her own
. I feel I have let her down. He is always skint and only visits our parents to borrow money he never pays back.
If I am honest I feel angry because of all the hurt he has caused people. And quite frankly it's embarrassing when stories filter back to me about his latest shenanigans. I tried to be a good auntie to my niece by protecting her the best I could but I could only do so much when she is not my child. E.g being told to drop her off at the pub...I feel guilty I didn't do more. Social services were aware but didn't do much. She comes to me as an adult and wants me to fix it but I can't and I don't always know what to say.
Will that amount of alcohol kill him? She has asked me that and I don't know. My sister said it's not enough to kill him as he's not a spirit drinker.
Anyone else gone through this?
My brother has been a huge drinker since the age of 16. He is now 58. He is the village drunk and I find it really shameful because he can be cruel, and does embarrassing things and has a 'reputation'. He's not a violent drunk, but a mean one and some of the things he has said to me have been awful.
Between us we are guessing at least 50 pints a week in the pub plus goodness knows how many cans at home or lunchtime drinks. He works full time but goes to the pub at the end of the day, has a few pints, evening meal, then back to the pub. Weekend he is wondering the village unable to find his way home. Wet patch and all
. He has no friends left as the few he had died from alcohol related diseases or they have distanced themselves as he gets quite rude and obnoxious. Only one pub in the area will serve him now, so he sits alone. He is on his third marriage and barely sees his daughter. When she was young she would visit her dad but would have to sit in the pub watching him slowly get drunk. He never did any fun stuff. She's an adult now and has issues of her own
. I feel I have let her down. He is always skint and only visits our parents to borrow money he never pays back. If I am honest I feel angry because of all the hurt he has caused people. And quite frankly it's embarrassing when stories filter back to me about his latest shenanigans. I tried to be a good auntie to my niece by protecting her the best I could but I could only do so much when she is not my child. E.g being told to drop her off at the pub...I feel guilty I didn't do more. Social services were aware but didn't do much. She comes to me as an adult and wants me to fix it but I can't and I don't always know what to say.
Will that amount of alcohol kill him? She has asked me that and I don't know. My sister said it's not enough to kill him as he's not a spirit drinker.
Anyone else gone through this?
I’d say at least ten a day plus the harder whiskeys and whatnot. I’ve also wondered how much us enough to kill him.
